Transforming Conflicts, Triggers and Upsets

From Victimhood to Freedom
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Let’s face it, we all get triggered and feeling upset from time to time. Getting triggered and feeling upset is a way to learn to live with others and especially with ourselves. 

So, you got triggered and are upset. What now?

The truth is that getting triggered and upset is all about ourselves, it’s never about someone else. It is you that feels upset, it is you that got triggered, right?

Sure, you had an experience, and you don’t like what you have seen, heard or experienced, for whatever reason.

Life is confronting you with something in form of an experience, a situation or someone behaving in a certain way. You need to learn to look at your experience in this way; life is providing an opportunity for you to reflect and grow. 

To grow and evolve we need to learn how to transform conflicts, triggers and upsets. Otherwise we’re locked in to a seeming endless spiral of suffering. The suffering does not itself guarantee growth, it’s how we deal with our experience. 

Our experience is simple the catalyst. In other words, conflicts, triggers and upsets are an opportunity to see yourself for who you truly are. 

Your growth shows in two ways. Firstly, you know when you have grown when you realise that certain situations or experiences are no longer a trigger for you. You have evolved into a more harmonious state of consciousness.

Secondly, you have become more mindful, and certain thought forms with their attached feelings and sensations can be present in your awareness without an immediate reaction. You no longer resist ‘what is’ and are not immediately seeking ‘what is not’. You are able to be with ‘what is’ at the moment. It doesn’t mean you need to like it. You have realised that inner resistance veils your equilibrium. 

These realisations are a sign for your radical transformation. You are more and more opening your capacity to bring the light of awareness into what was previously un-aware. 

You have realised patterns that have previously caused an immediate reaction and now you have replaced it with a response, or no response at all. You have become responsible. Being responsible means you’re able to respond, instead of react. 

You are able to take a deep breath, pause for a moment and choose to respond, out of knowing your own being, which is unlimited, ever-present awareness. This is a choice made with awareness, rather being the victim of an un-aware reaction and forgetting who you truly are.

Getting triggered and upset is inevitable, and the more you use it as a welcomed opportunity to grow, the more you will evolve into an awakened being.

You also might want to pay close attention to three key aspects as you practice transforming conflicts, triggers and upsets.

The first aspect is frequency, meaning how often do you experience getting triggered and upset? It is a good indicator of where you are in your progress. 

The second aspect is duration, meaning how long does your experience of getting triggered and upset last? Do you hang on to the experience for an hour, a day or even longer? The sooner you can let go of feeling upset, the better for your growth and of course your state of inner peace. 
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The third aspect is intensity, meaning how high is your level of disturbance, how far are you removed from your centre, your deep seated inner peace? An indicator for your awakening is to realise that you’re not deeply troubled anymore by you reacting to outside circumstances or events. 

The more you live in a peaceful inner state, if and when you get triggered into feeling upset, the easier you return to your true nature, which is equilibrium and harmony, knowing your true being. 

ConsciousLiving Process for Transforming Conflict, Triggers and Upsets

These spiritual teachings and practices serve to safely transform conflicts, triggers and upsets and cultivate a vibrant awareness of the true nature of your being, your innate wholeness and worthiness. We create a safe environment in which we can come into alignment with our highest potential and our true nature.

Process Overview

1. Acknowledging … that you're upset 
2. Discovering … your perceptions (the world)
3. Uncovering … your stories, beliefs, thoughts (the mind)
4. Recognising … your feelings, sensations (the body)
5. Realising … presence of awareness
6. Forgiving … yourself for forgetting your essence 
7. Cultivating … gratitude for triggers and upsets 

I’m sharing my passion for assisting people to shift from identifying oneself as a separate body/mind towards knowing oneself as transparent, unlimited and ever-present awareness. 

Apart from an archetypical genetic coding we take on limiting beliefs about ourselves at an early age, triggering us to react. Often without realising, these beliefs drive our suffering. 

I’m offering Individual and Group Coaching/Mentoring sessions (in person or per Zoom) to help people transform conflicts, triggers and upsets.

If you are interested in learning more about the ConsciousLiving Process for Transforming Conflict, Triggers and Upsets go to: rolfkrahnert.com

In Peace and Trust
Rolf Krahnert


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