Feelings of brokenness, shame and inadequacy are about the very foundation of who we believe we are. Basically, we feel that something is wrong with us.
But this fundamentally wrong belief is also where we have the opportunity to heal ourselves. These feelings are the symptoms of a healing crisis. Something inside has cracked and healing is about to happen.
Let’s say you have an infection and you take some remedies. After two or three days you start to feel sick. Why is that? The remedies have dealt with the infection. Now your body deals with the toxins and dead pathogens.
Your body is temporarily overloaded, and that’s why you feel sick. This temporary sickness is, in fact, a sign that the treatment has succeeded, even if it doesn’t feel that way.
In the same way, you first have to bring whatever is feels wrong, repressed or unacceptable about yourself to the surface, so you can deal with it. If you want to heal, there is no other way around. You have to face the pain.
What happens if you don’t deal with the pain?
If you bury these feelings inside, if you keep them away from your awareness, you start to dissociate from a part of yourself.
With time, all these things that are not acceptable will grow stronger. They will create a new identity, your shadow. Soon, without even realising, there will be two of you: the Acceptable You and the Unacceptable You.
There are two identities sharing the same body, but not communicating with each other. At best, they will ignore each other. At worst, they will start to fight. There can be only one of you, right? This is what physical, emotional and spiritual sickness is. A split, followed by a conflict between two ‘foreign’ entities.
Yes, you can take remedies and try to kill the ‘enemy’. But because you created that enemy in the first place, it’s only a matter of time until you create it again.
The dis-ease comes back because that which you are trying to kill with pills, fasting or other treatments is a part of YOU.
When we go through pain, we need to accept that pain is part of us, and indirectly, we accept that part of us we were trying to hide. That’s how we heal.
I’m not saying that pills, exercise, or healthy food are not good for you and are not contributing to heal you. But if you have an illness, then trying to ‘cure’ what is ‘wrong’ with you, trying to ‘fight’ the enemy is not going to work.
The only way to heal from an illness is to accept yourself fully.
I encourage you to look out for your physical symptoms and your shadow aspects, and be open to learn what you need to do to bring these aspects into a unified whole and to acknowledge your genius.
When you feel shame, guilt, or inadequacy, ask yourself: which part of myself I am trying to hide, or to ‘fix’? That’s exactly that part of you that you must learn to accept.
When you search for integration move inwards. Become your own medicine!
We usually look for answers outside. We go to the doctor, to the shaman, to the spiritual guru, to the coach or we travel to faraway places.
When you start to look for answers inside you become your own medicine.
Bring all of your broken parts together, including those you are ashamed of the most. Make peace with ‘the enemy’, which are your ‘shadow aspects’.
Accept yourself fully. When you own your brokenness, your shame and your inadequacy, this is when you become whole, this is when you heal.
With Love and Respect
Awakening to the Presence of Being and Knowing
The best service you can render to humanity is to recognise the true nature of your being.
Self Inquiry is one of the most important aspects of personal growth and to reaching your full potential. It doesn’t have to be a lonely enterprise, but an exchange between people.
The most important question you may ask yourself is: Who AM I?
And to avoid misunderstandings; I don't mean the different roles you play in your everyday life, such as husband, wife, father, mother, son, daughter, employee, self-employed, alternative practitioner, doctor or entrepreneur.
Also I do not mean your identification with nationalities, religions or cultures, but who you really are in your true essence independent of all these programming?
You are now probably wondering why it should be so important to know ?
Well, maybe you experience a lot of frustration in your life or even feel a deep dissatisfaction with your current life or circumstances? (Of course there are also positive exceptions!!)
Or do you feel more and more powerless due to the economic and political events and conditions in your country and as a result more and more as a victim of circumstances?
Maybe you are plagued by money worries, various health problems or fears about the future?
If yes, then let me say to you in all clarity that all these adverse circumstances have at the core a common denominator:
You are currently on the threshold of your individual awakening. An awakening from the limitations of your previous 4 dimensional world of conception and perception.
Because fact is:
The problem is not the individual circumstances of life, no matter how bad they may seem at first glance, but your own consideration and evaluation of these circumstances with your limited perception of the world in connection with a false conception and limiting beliefs and values.
For the truth is:
If you have only very limited or even wrong information about the laws of life and the world at your disposal, then you can only make wrong decisions based on this information and, derived from it, only perform wrong actions and, as a result, only achieve wrong results in life.
Sounds logical, doesn't it?
The key to a fulfilled, happy and successful life can therefore only be found within yourself, your REAL SELF.
This in turn also means that you should first recognise and experience WHO YOU REALLY ARE. Herein lies your freedom.
Love and Light
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Any form of perception is an illusion, an appearance and sometimes even a hallucination. Escaping the perceptual illusion is even more than escaping that appearance, it means becoming aware of our underlying assumptions about the nature of reality. Only then can we transcend misperception and re-vision the very nature of reality.
The main assumption of the perceptual illusion, that which encompasses all of the underlying assumptions, is the assumption of duality.
The seperate mind assumes beginning and end, inside and outside, creator and creation, here and there, moving and still, separation and connection, even existence and nonexistence and countless other forms of perceived dualities. All of the contents of the perceptual illusion cements the assumption that reality is dual.
We are mostly unaware of this main assumption, yet it inescapably taints our conception of reality.
Dualistic assumptions of the illusion of perception:
The exploration of these perceptual assumptions is the subject and the essence of the direct path of non-duality.
It encourages a clear seeing of your experience rather than any kind of effort or discipline, and leads you to an experiential understanding of your own essential being and the peace and fulfilment that are inherent within it.
You can connect with Rolf for mindful dialogue and contemplations sessions about the essential, non-dual understanding that lies at the heart of all the great religious and spiritual traditions.
Rolf Krahnert. ConsciousLiving Coach - Mentor for Awakening and Transformation.